Not Celebrating

Easter, it would seem, is celebrated en masse second only to Christmas in Buying, Dinnering, Gifting, Worshipping, etc. It seems, also, that I notice this more clearly when I step outside of the Christian mainstream on my way towards Judaism.

I just had Purim. Other Patti and I certainly celebrated it. Very scrupulously, too. I suppose I should have read the story of Esther to her, but I didn’t. Next year.

And now I look at this problematic holiday full of bunnies and bonnets and multi-colored eggs. I thought it would be harder to give up. In fact, there was no difficulty at all.

My adult life has been spent, since about 2 months out of college, married to Buck, and ensuing efforts to relieve myself of the bonds of the catholic church, which time my mother spent trying to force the catholic church down my throat. She even gave up smoking in a bargain with God so that I would come back to the church. She successfully gave up the habit, but I never went back to the church. As I said, my adult life has been spent outside of the church: Easter was never more than a social occasion/event to me. It was an annoyance of a day for which I had to remember to make reservations at the club for lunch… I never felt it spiritually.

I remember the misery of the cold, gray day two months after Peter was born when I had to get me and my still sore abdomen (C-section after 21 hours of labor) and my son dressed and ready for a formal Lunch with parents and in-laws, and holding him and staring into his tiny little perfect face in utter resignation. There was no worship that day, I tell you for certain, and no celebration on my part.

I liked the pretty eggs and the chocolate though. In their place, I have (just before Easter) Purim, with its bouncing around and conga lines and celebration and … stuff. After this, there is Pesach, with a really big dinner and lots of people around.

Ah, the hell with the eggs.

5 thoughts on “Not Celebrating

  1. True, but right now, all the meaning it has for me is a great nuisance, permanently avoided. 😐

  2. I used to get my kids each one Cadbury egg around Easter time every year. I figure eggs can really be either Jewish or Christian. So can bunnies and chicks.

    Neither my husband’s family nor mine really celebrated Purim when we were growing up, but Passover was always a big deal. I love Passover. I love cooking the meal – the brisket, the matzah ball soup, the charoses – can’t wait!

  3. Like Peter, our older son was born via C-section after about 24 hours of labor – it was tough on my wife, that’s for sure. She was going all natural, no pain medication, doing the breathing thing all that time. Then the doctor say ‘c-section’ and my wife said ‘get that epidural in me NOW’ – I can laugh about it, in private πŸ™‚

    It’s sad that society has this tendency to turn religious holidays into events with such high expectations. Ever since we’ve been married we’ve lived far enough away from the rest of our family to have a good buffer – and that has helpd us keep a better balance, or focus during those holidays.

  4. Thank you for celebrtaing with me. I do need to have a better understanding of what Purim is.

    However it was quite fun!

    Other Patte

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